The Hidden Enemy Destroying Most Marriages
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Summary
In one line: The spirit behind most divorces is about money — today's culture wants a finished product, while his parents' generation built together from nothing.
Key points
- His culture: father provides, mother cares and supports him emotionally — dad even had his own favourite meal.
- Now it's "how much is in your bank?"; wealthy families avoid poverty mindsets marrying in. Fairy tales teach that women "marry up" — "you have nothing and you're 'settling'?"
- Proverbs 31's woman has a trade (Proverbs 31:10-31); "the modern woman says 'I'm beautiful', the modern man says 'I have projects'" — no work ethic. "Have something steady while you build."
Transcript
Automatic captions, reflowed into paragraphs. Scripture references are highlighted; passages that sound like read scripture are set apart; people and spiritual beings are in bold.
This spirit has broken so many marriages.
This spirit has broken so many families. Now listen to this. Do you know the lead cause of divorce?
JT, what is the lead cause of divorce?
I I can come to the mic. Come to the mic with your nice suit.
You are the financial man. What is the lead cause of divorce?
Finances. So why are many struggling with finances? Why has finances become the point of people breaking up because of this spirit?
If you look at back in the day, let me speak of my parents' generation, which is the same code I live by and it's the same code that my children and my children's children will live by.
Our culture was very simple.
Father provides for the family. Mother takes care of the family.
That's it was that simple. Mother was emotional and mental support for father so that father can go and do what he needed to do. It was so important to the point that when in my culture dad ate special food that not even the kids were eating. When dad came home his meal was different from everybody. Mom made sure he ate what he loved.
Everybody else will eat what you're going to eat. But dad comes home, he's always eating his favorite meal. Why? He's busy fighting
for the family. Notice these families had the concept of we will build for from nothing
and we will gain everything.
Today's culture is how much do you have in your bank? What job do you do? There is no future plan. So it is easy for this spirit to infiltrate. Because everybody is after a finished product.
Nobody wants to be involved in the construction.
And the fortification.
That's good.
Wow.
This is why you find wealthy families don't want their children to marry people who are in poverty
because they know if that mindset enters our family it will dry us up. It will not build us up.
Now uh what I'm telling you is true.
It's true. Now it is if you look from Disney and stuff, it has always been that women marry up
and men date or marry low. Whereby a prince will find Cinderella, but Cinderella will not find somebody like her.
I just said something.
And it's the same spirit also that ministers to a lot of people especially women to think that I will find better.
Oh I think I'm No, I'm telling you the truth.
I'm settling. Wait, what?
You have nothing and you're settling. What does
you're helping the people? Oh, okay. I'm done.
You're helping the generations. Come on.
Notice if you go to Is it Proverb 31?
Woman.
Yes.
Is it Proverb 31?
Yes.
It tells you she has a trade. She has this. She has that, she has this, she has that. Everything that now the modern woman has is I am beautiful.
applause
And the modern man is I have projects. No work ethic.
Oh my.
I'm working on this thing. Can we start by having something steady you do
while you're working on this project?
Not I am working on this project and I'm not doing anything else.
Are you teaching?
Yeah. That's suspicious. That means you cannot take care of the basic needs.
Wow.
That is standard. I can take care of myself.
And while I'm taking care of myself and taking care of this, there are things I am building on so that I don't remain in this place. But while we are in this place, there must be something that my wife or my girlfriend or my fiance or my children are able to enjoy while we are building.
One party is look at me.
The other part is I have projects
on
and potential. Lord.