RAW TALK: Sexual Tension

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all right so we were in the middle of shooting a PO sh but I just think this is going to help somebody I just got a phone call from a spiritual son and daughter who were married and they were having some some troubles in the bedroom now and I'm discussing this with my sons and U some of them are about to get married and and I think this will be helpful to somebody now char Char is getting married soon don't choke now why are you Ching oh uh oh you okay okay R so so check this out check this out here's the issue when people who are in love become married and they start having issues in the bedroom you have to understand this right love and lust are two different things lust takes love satisfies anyone who is driven by lust can never be satisfied but anyone who is full of love is completely satisfied now when people are still in the dating phase before marriage they're in their exploration era whereby you still full of lust that's why you have a hard time committing people may not want to admit this but it's true because whether it's a man or a woman you're still looking for a better option what is the thing that you like the most notice it's superficial it has no substance six pack six pack six figures all right a man oh curvy this and this and this and this notice what is appealing to you at that moment is completely lust because what if he has a six-pack six figures 6 feet tall and he's abusing you makes no sense that that relationship will die if you're genuine right so when people are married and they are committed in Christ right the first thing that dies is lust because where there is love lust will die there will be no lust so if our sexual chemistry goes down and you're like well I I are you not uh attracted to me the way you the way used to be uh when I take off my clothes you don't look at me anymore listen the man or the woman no longer has lust what would appeal to him before is not going to appeal to him now because they have no lust in them so you trying to use lust to appeal to them and they no longer have lust if you can appeal to them by simply being naked then if another woman or Another Man is naked to them then that will appeal to them too they have no lust anymore that means they are free from anything that is fleshly that will generally drive them to want to be intimate so now they have moved from what is simply physical or superficial to things of substance now you have to ask yourself this especially coming from a man's perspective if there is no peace in the house there can never be intimacy if there's arguing at home why would I want to be intimate with somebody who is argumentative right somebody who is not who has lost their femininity right or masculinity if it's a man where there is bickering where there is tension whether it's sexual of or or or or or arguments or whatever may be tension drives people away it doesn't bring people together tension drives people away so now the question is this when last was dominating the aspect of Adventure and experience was motivating you to be intimate to be sexually intimate right now you are in Christ you no longer have L but the sense of adventure can still be there the sense of enjoyment can still be there even though you are satisfied think about it like this when a lion is hungry he's a very dangerous animal to be by but when an when a lion is fed he may sleep 16 hours you may pass in front of him and he won't even care because he's full so somebody who is filled with love is no longer motivated simply because you took your clothes off they're no longer motivated because you're going to the gym every day and no a man full of love or a woman full of love no longer is motivated by that they will look at you and say man my husband is beautiful or he's handsome or my wife is beautiful but they are no longer driven by lust the desire to be intimate that when we have sex we connect you know there is a sense of connection that comes from being sexually intimate there's a sense of I want to please you because you're mine it there is no last anymore it is substance so a lot of women and a lot of men you know um they'll go to the gym also you no longer feel me in this way or a woman seeking attention or a man see seeking attention we become driven by things that are superficial and those things no longer matter we are in Love Now lust is no longer the case you don't look at somebody that you love and think about sex that's not the first thing that comes to mind when Adam met Eve for the first time he did not think think of sex he thought of the future it was about Destiny wow she shall be called woman because she will be the mother of all living he didn't look at her and say yo Lord give me a second you know that was not in his mind there was no last they had they were intimate because they became one flesh they were intimate because they wanted to procreate so you don't secure a relationship simply by sex even though sex is important but the key is bring back the sense of excitement the sense of adventure but understand lust is no longer going to cut it because the man or the woman is free from lust that will no longer be a motivational fact don't just expect I mean this this is so important I pray that this enters people's hearts especially you guys is that don't expect just because you took off clothes now they're ready to go no it doesn't work like that somebody will last will be like anything they see they want to you know run to it but when a person no longer has lust in them that's not going to appeal to them there are other things that can drive them to that place no longer last last takes it doesn't satisfy there are two things that destroys homes money and the lack of intimacy when you at 60 going to the gym will no longer be what will keep you together yeah just beyond 35 if you are thinking about physicality Being Fit being the point of you being together you've lost it when you're in love I want you to go to the gym to be healthy we don't want to get diabetes we don't want to get heart attack because we are overweight we don't want to have these issues of course I want you to look good but I want you not to look good because of my selfish reasons I want you to look good because you're going to be healthier and then we can fulfill what God has for us but if I want you to look good because that's what appeals to me and you don't go to the gym so I'll go for the next thing I am full of lust I'm not full of love I don't know if this is making sense you know that's the reality of it our parents didn't go to the gym they stay together for years upon years upon years until we came that was not what motivated them they were purpose their Union was centered on purpose when people are centered on purpose what motivates them to do things is no longer rooted in lust it's rooted in love I mean I hope that's helpful man sometimes these things when they happen is just it makes you think and you're like man Lord we we pray for more wisdom and understanding that we may be able to to you know um be able to navigate these things because man will it be so helpful women need to get back to their feminine place and men need to go back to being masculine masculinity doesn't mean you're dominant in the negative kind of sense being a masculine man is to be a protector to be a provider and to be a leader in your house that your rule literally produces results M you you know that means that you you are a man that can be followed if you have no results why should you be followed why would a woman give her life to you and you're not going anywhere you have to remember a woman as Dr mil milman Ro the great always said was you know a woman is a multiplier if you give her love she'll give you a family she'll give you a home you give her trash she'll multiply trouble do you get what I'm saying so you have to understand like where you're going if if if you are a man who does not understand where you're going please stay away from a woman because a woman comes to assist you with Destiny and women to being desperate to be in a relationship they end up with a boy thinking that it's a man then you try to fix him no you can't fix a man if the holy spirit is struggling with strength straightening out people how about us you know what I'm saying man may God help us amen yeah